OTHER IMPORTANT USES FOR "STRATEGIC EMAILS"

Not all divorced parents are interested or in need of ways to collect evidence of their ex's wrong-doings. There are at least two other important ways that strategic emails can be effectively used.

IMPROVING COMMUNICATIONS BETWEEN DIVORCED PARENTS

Since communication problems are often at the core of most marital breakups, it makes sense that having productive and respectful exchanges could be a continuing problem among divorced parents who need to be in contact regarding their young children. Among couples who find that communicating verbally (i.e., face to face or by phone) quickly leads to non-productive arguments, email offers an excellent alternative for many. For some parents, email offers a buffer but for others it provides a venue for relentless bashing, threats and anything other than a focus on their children.

Strategic emails offers parents who find themselves caught in dysfunctional communication patterns a way to redirect their ex-spouse's provocations by changing how responses are written. Although no one has control over what another person will do, by changing one's own behavior, this often promotes change in the other person. Afterall, if only one person is fighting, then it's not particularly reinforcing.

RECONNECTING WITH AN ESTRANGED OR ALIENATED CHILD

As the issue of parental alienation continues to gain attention, more and more parents who have been estranged or alienated from their children years ago are looking for opportunities to re-establish contact. In some cases, parents have limited communication via email but do not find it to be particularly satisfying or productive. Once again, strategic emails aimed at "reaching" children have produced impressive results.

While every case is different, strategic emails has been successful in opening the door for healthier and more productive communications. Since alienation is generally deep rooted, being able to set the stage for positive exchanges is a huge step in the right direction.

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Everyone's concerns are unique. For that reason, Dr. Reena Sommer offers a brief "no obligation" telephone consultation. Please call her with your questions and concerns at 281.534.3923